Today, we’d like to introduce you to Dr. Matt Helm.
Hi Dr. Helm, so excited to have you with us today. What can you tell us about your story?
I dropped to my knees, completely shattered. My life would never be the same. 12 years ago, I walked into an empty home, divorced, and without my children. In my life, I have had several progressive awakenings. One of the most prominent was my divorce, and more specifically, the first night I walked into my new home without my children.
Right after I finalized my divorce, I went home and walked into an empty house. I was overcome with emotion and fell to my knees, alone and completely shattered. My life would never be the same. The reality of my divorce became very real for me at that moment. Until then I had been holding myself together in order to do what was needed for myself and my children. But this was the first night I would spend away from my children as a result of the decision to divorce.
As I lay there in a dark and empty room, a calm in the eye of the storm emerged. Shockingly, as I witnessed the world from inside of me, the foundational structures of my reality collapsed and I had nowhere to hide. In a panic, I attempted to flee to old thought patterns and beliefs, only they were not there, and there was no place to go. At that moment, there was a witness to all of this and a voice that said, “It’s time”.
An aspect that some call the soul, the higher self, or oneness was present and I surrendered and let go of the reins. I can still feel the groundlessness of this moment and the deep grief that began to emerge, kind of like taking the lid off of a pot. I had a recognition that this grief wasn’t only the loss of my marriage. It was every unhealed loss of my entire life. I could feel a divine flowing energy pouring throughout my entire body.
Every system, mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual, was purged and cleansed. I fell to my knees, and I wept, I screamed, and I lay in the arms of what some may call God or Universal Love. I knew at that moment that I would never be the same. As I lay there, all of my life’s trauma, unresolved pain, and grief visited me, and I realized I was being given an opportunity for healing that would lead to complete freedom.
At that moment, I was awake. I could see clearly the false self that was steering my life. From this place of no self, I made a decision to consciously put myself together in ways that were grounded in this truth of who I was before the original trauma, before I was conditioned away from my authentic self. I have had several other awakenings and experiences of expansion in my life, and I imagine you have had them, too.
But these awakenings are only the beginning. Sometimes, there is a complete clearing of the trauma, the mental, emotional, and physical debris, but for most, there is significant rebuilding and healing to do. As I woke up, I chose to heal up with tools such as psychotherapy, meditation, yoga, travel, reading, studying with shamans, teachers, esoteric healers, plant medicine, hypnosis, non-duality, and the service of other skilled coaches.
Through this work, I began to show up more grounded in my truth in life, close relationships, and as a leader. I developed a deep and mindful self-love and compassion for myself. It is very important to understand that you cannot bypass any of these stages.
There are many awakened beings on the planet who have not done the psychological and emotional work of healing and are showing up in the world as awakened. However, they have not healed their shadow or grief and hold on to many outdated beliefs that can be harmful to themselves, their students, and the world.
There are also those who have done significant healing work but have not awakened. Many people are able to change their thinking, and heal emotional wounds, But are only replacing old thoughts and feelings for NEW. Awakening is much deeper and more challenging than this. I have spent the last 12 years learning from therapists, coaches, teachers, mentors, and shamans. 5 years ago, I left my academic career to become a mentor, coach, and therapist.
I created Freedom’s Edge and Relationships Thrive (with my wife Larissa), businesses where I now help men, women, and couples wake up, heal up, mature up, and show up to relationships in healthier and more conscious ways. I have literally SAVED marriages on the brink of divorce. I also help singles through my Dating Alchemy/Soul mate dating academy.
In addition to this, I created the Uncaged Man Retreat and Uncaged Podcast where I feature people who choose to live a FREEDOM LIFESTYLE. I have spent decades observing what men and women want out of a relationship and that there is a major gap between what men and women want and need in relationships.
This gap is the source of so much confusion, pain, and disconnection in relationships, and unfortunately, the vast majority of people get into relationships without truly being awake, healed, and ready for deep, passionate love.
I met the woman of my dreams and married her two years ago, and together, we have been cocreating our own FREEDOM LIFESTYLE and using our relationship as the deepest evolutionary and learning experience in our lives.
I’m sure it wasn’t obstacle-free, but would you say the journey has been fairly smooth so far?
It has not been a smooth road, but then living in alignment with your soul’s deep truth is not a linear path. There has been so much pain and grief to process along the way.
I NEVER thought I would get divorced, resign from a very successful career, and be helping others wake up to the truth of who they are. The journey to freedom and emancipating yourself from everything that is false in your in arduous, but so worth the struggle.
As you know, we’re big fans of Freedom’s Edge and Relationships Thrive. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about the brand?
Freedom’s Edge leads men, women, and couples to direct their energy towards an extraordinary life of peak existence, purpose, and truthful presence around what matters most.
Freedom’s Edge is committed to people learning that FREEDOM is the only real wealth. Freedom is the NEW Wealth. Freedom in life, love, leadership, and business. I teach people how to have RELATIONSHIP lives. I help wake up, heal up, and mature people and couples.
What sets me apart is my accelerated evolution coaching techniques. I help remove the past karma from a person’s nervous system. Most people function out of the past (already-thought thoughts, already-felt feelings, patterned behaviors. I help my clients remove all of this so they can show up REAL, Authentic, and in their truth vs false identities created to cope with their families, our culture, and socialization to conform.
I do deep dives (3-day retreats) to correct and heal challenges for leaders, couples, and families). So many marriages don’t need to end. They just need healing and help. I also offer couples year-long, 6-month programs to help them become sacred and evolutionary partners. I coach one-on-one with my wife, Larissa, who is a feminine-embodied women’s coach.
Where do you see things going in the next 5-10 years?
I see men, women, and couples doing their healing work before they get married.
I see a more deeply conscious person choosing to live in their truth authentically and attracting partners who can meet them in deeper depth. I see more masculine and feminine inner marriages. I see a NEW Marriage for our world. One where people are awake and whole, and this is valued.
Pricing:
- Deep Dives are 5K-20K
- Courses $47-500
- books $29
- Event, Sacred Intimacy-$1500
- 1-1 coaching 10K -50K
Contact Info:
- Website: matthelmcoaching.com
- Instagram: @matthelmcoaching
- Facebook: @matthelmcoaching
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-helm-phd-56b6b66/
- Twitter: @drmatthelm
- Youtube: @Freedom’s Edge and @matthelmcoaching
Image Credits
Hillary Nichols
