Today we’d like to introduce you to Michelle Villalobos.
Michelle, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
As a little kid, we moved around a lot, and so I never felt like I fit in or belonged. My identity formed around my success and achievement in school; my strategy was to work really hard, get really good grades, please my parents, teachers, and others around me, and then maybe, someday, I would be happy.
Fast forward through Ivy League college and working my way up the corporate ladder making good money with semi-high profile job… and realizing I was MISERABLE, and as long as I kept up the facade, I would STAY miserable. I realized had built a whole life around who I WASN’T instead of who I really WAS.
So, I broke out on my own, became an entrepreneur and would like to say I lived happily ever after.
Well, I didn’t.
Instead of living my dream, I then spent the next 7 years struggling to “make it” until one day in April 2014, I hit rock bottom and almost gave up. That changed everything. I found a mentor to help me learn a new way of doing business, and now 4 years later I’ve been able to align my business and my life with who I really am and what MATTERS to me (like, really matters) AND at the same time became way more “successful” in the traditional sense too.
Now, my crew and I teach others how to make the 3 Big Shifts that I made, and mentor them through the process of implementation.
Has it been a smooth road?
Here’s just a spoonful of struggles I faced along the way:
– Fear of failure (fear of everything)
– Micromanaging/trying to control everything & overwhelm as a result
– Major ADD/ADHD (diagnosed and medicated for years)
– Binge eating/unhealthy food relationship
– Crippling self-doubt & second-guessing;
– Lack of self-awareness/self-acceptance/self-love/self confidence
Advice #1: Write down your list of struggles. All of them. Now, go back to every single one that has ANYONE else’s name on it and rewrite it to reflect YOUR issue (not theirs). In other words: stop blaming everyone else (or even anyone else) for your problems. Your life is yours and yours ALONE. Don’t you like it? Change it. Advice #2: Surround yourself with a CREW of ENGINES who see you as greater than you even see yourself, and dump the anchors (the criticizers, the naysayers, the troublemakers and the drama-magnets) in your life (or at least stop telling them your dreams and ideas!)
So, as you know, we’re impressed with Superstar Activator – tell our readers more, for example, what you’re most proud of as a company and what sets you apart from others.
We activate “Superstars” to speak up, step up & shake up humanity.
Everyone has magical, unique gifts inside of them that can be activated in service of a greater purpose; a “Superstar” is someone whose gift is to awaken others through speaking, influencing and leading.
We help Superstars design or grow their message, mission or movement by providing strategic business mentoring and support services that help them align in 3 key areas: 1) The business front-end / 2) The business back-end, and 3) Their own beliefs and behaviors (AKA: mindset).
Do you think there are structural or other barriers impeding the emergence of more female leaders?
I believe that most of us women are suffering from a lack of being grounded in our feminine energy. We have been trying to bust through the walls and ceilings by emulating men and do what they’ve done (“except backward and in high heels” as they say). And it’s simply not working for us. All that masculine energy is simply adding more of the same type of seasoning to the human stew. It’s time to embrace and embody the feminine and bring THAT to the table for leadership globally. This is an obviously tiny drop in a much bigger conversation…
- Website: www.SuperstarActivator.com
- Phone: (888) 531-3830
- Email: Michelle@SuperstarActivator.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/superstarspeaker/
- Twitter: http://twitter.com/mivi