Throughout our journey with Voyage, the one thing we haver learned over and over is that hidden within every challenge is a blessing or opportunity. It’s up to us to determine whether a challenge we face will be a step back or the catalyst for a step forward.
We had the honor of connecting with some of the city’s brightest female leaders and role models and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
Below, you’ll find their advice and links and other info so you can learn more about them, their work and how to connect with them. We’ll be interviewing many of these amazing women in the coming weeks, stay tuned.
Danielle Dam | Personal Trainer and Manager at Equinox South Beach
During any difficult time I always try to look inward. Remind myself of self-love. Meaning, if there is anything I am facing which won’t allow my journey and outcome to bring positive light to my life, I try to eliminate it. If it doesn’t serve you, get rid of it. Our time here is limited and we are all too precious and unique to allow anything that brews negativity to fester in our energy. Life is too short to not enjoy every second of it.
fit with gabs | health and fitness inspo
My advice to those who feel they are facing an insurmountable would be to step back from your situation, look at the bigger picture and remember what’s really important. Do not stress the situation because it will accomplish nothing, my favorite way to clear my mind is to go for a run. It allows me to think clearly and focus on nothing but the situation on my mind.
Kaelyn DaCosta | Corporate Flight Attendant & Entrepreneur
My advice is to welcome challenges and setbacks as opportunities for reevaluation or revamp; and be conscious of how to cultivate an ambitious and open minded attitude in times of hardship because this is the road to transition. Knowing how to constantly adapt and build is crucial because in this life things are forever changing. Don’t get attached, do the work, and trust the process.
Kimberly | Motherhood & Lifestyle Blogger + Vlogger
Stay positive. You aren’t given anything you can’t handle, and there’s a way to overcome ANYTHING you are going through. Believe in yourself, take your time, and always stay positive.
Radio host/producer of “Cubaneando with Viviám María” | Voiceover Artist | Master of Ceremonies
Always believe in yourself; remain focused; evaluate the challenge as a whole and break it down into smaller, and more manageable steps. Plan to tackle each step individually. If you are a spiritual person, then pray, meditate or turn to that higher power that can help you to spiritually alleviate the burden. Finding a support system is important too. Try to connect with others who may provide advice, guidance or assistance. Someone who may have already gone through a similar challenge (and succeeded) might be able to share their wisdom and words of care, that may in turn help enlighten your pathway. You can gain strength and vision from other people’s success and learn from those who have come through victoriously from challenges.
In a nutshell, remain positive, believe in yourself, remain focused, be patient and kind to yourself (it is alright to take it one step at a time)… Keep the faith, seek support from family/friends/colleagues, and always do everything with love, passion, and dedication! You will succeed!
Katja Rauhe | Commercial Actor and mom to teenage boys
I say, find your passion, trust in yourself and follow your heart! Don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be. Keep going, don’t doubt yourself. Nothing is impossible in this world if you put your mind to it and stay positive. It’s so hard sometimes, I doubt myself often but I learned to overcome my fears and trust my skills and embrace myself. I have the proof now that I can be awesome, even though I still have to remind myself sometimes. You have it in you to do well anywhere – follow your guts – You can do it!!” Feel free to alter it.
Sofia Venanzetti | Flexibility and Contortion Coach
Take a day at a time. Try to accomplish small things in regards to the big challenge, even if it means just taking care of yourself that day- like doing grocery or showering, doing laundry etc.
Usually we feel overwhelmed and just taking little steps – the first one being making sure we’re taking care of ourselves – is much better than thinking to solve whatever we’re dealing with overnight.
– Have a plan. Analyze the situation and keep in check your mental approach. Don’t try to solve something when you’re highly emotional or at night.
– surround yourself with supportive people. Even if this is an individual challenge, being alone is never helpful. Have friends or family on your side if you can. Even one person make a huge difference.
-Lastly, know that your mind mostly dictate the outcome of things. Train positive thinking, confidence and gratefulness. Everything is temporary and possible to deal with, be prepared and brave.
E. L. Lane | Copywriter | Social Media Consultant and Blogger
My advice to anyone who is facing a challenge that seems insurmountable is: start small. Find a small part of the obstacle you can face head on, and once you’ve taken care of it, tackle the next small task. You’ll come to find that breaking that huge challenge into small doable tasks, you’ll be up and over that challenge before you know it and you’ll be better equipped to deal with challenges in the future.
Alyssa Varas | yoga instructor | public relations student and founder of Blyss Yoga
You are in control of your thoughts, your emotions, your actions and, in turn, your destiny. Though certain challenges can make you feel overwhelmed and hopeless, it is important to take control of your mental state and to push through those emotions. Then, we can take control of our actions that will help us overcome those challenges. When we take control, we are confident and powerful. We can do anything.
WxldLotus | Rav Drummer | Model | Jewelry Maker | Singer
I’ve learned that no matter how hard or far you feel you are from your goal, keep striving, keep trying, stay focused, and stay resilient. Everything may not happen according to your plan, but if you can see it, you can manifest it. “”Everything happens for a reason, but nothing lasts forever””, is what got me through Basic Training in the Military. Just be patient with yourself, write things down, document your progress, so you won’t feel like you haven’t done anything. Don’t expect to reach your goals in a certain type of way. Know you will get there. Don’t stress yourself out. Stay open to possibilities, and use your discernment with the opportunity that presents themselves. What is meant for you will come in its divine timing, so enjoy the process, learn the lessons, and have fun doing it! I also like to remain myself that the Most High/ Creator/God will never place me in a situation I can’t handle. When I feel super overwhelmed I step back and ask myself, what am I suppose to learn from this? What is this trying to teach me? Then, I can handle the situation in a calm, clear manner.
Candace Smith of CanDesLand | Lifestyle Blogger & Plus Size Fashion Expert
Just focus on the next step! Figure out what you can do right now that takes you one step closer to overcoming the challenge and do it. Then repeat.
Shayla Chablani | Motivator or Inspirational Icon
My Advice would be, first of all always face the challenge because that is what life is about, facing different challenges that make us grow as people, and we have the choice either to assume the challenge with a good attitude and a happy perspective or with a negative mindset. It all begins with a mindset, face your challenge with a happy and positive attitude and mindset and you will be surprised of how far you can reach, Remember to maintain a good attitude during all the challenges that life puts in your journey, because even in the darkest of times there is always a piece of light, the magic of how it works is that YOU decide to see it and fight for that piece of light every single day. And remember it is important to face challenges in our life in order to reach our goals and be the person we want to be, so never loose hope and always search for your light, even in the darkest of times.
Grethel La O & Giselle Herald of Design + Print Boutique
At our core we are teachers and our bills are barely paid with our day (teaching) jobs. There are some that will try very hard to convince you teachers deal with popsicles and at most, tantrums. The reality is that our classrooms are shifting, and our kids are facing issues we are not prepared to handle. The teacher and human in us, do everything to make the experience at school happy, positive, and safe.
The best advice we give our students is: “You ARE NOT alone! We are here for you!” We may not always know how to help, but we will find someone/something that will.
We ultimately believe that when someone is facing an insurmountable challenge they do not want/need to be alone, whether they know it or not. Carrying the load with someone else makes things a little easier to handle and the feeling of being alone tugs a little less hard.
Our goal, regardless of the job we are doing, is to promote a welcoming space for all. We put love into this company because we want to create something that we are proud of and that will give us the opportunity to contribute to our community.
Also, to our moms, WE MADE IT! Thank you for all the sacrifices you have made for us to be able to do things we love. How lucky are we to have examples such as yourselves, leaving everything behind in Cuba for us to have an opportunity at a better life.
Gigi Carballo | Social Media Marketer | Blogger & Freelance Model
I’ve faced many challenges in my life, and if there’s one thing i’ve learned it’s that perspective is everything. If I could offer one piece of advice to someone facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable it would be to take a step back, try to view their challenge without attaching themselves to the outcome, and realize that they have the power to react however they choose. No challenge is too great, as great as it may seem, there’s always a new way to see things, and there’s always a choice to be made. One of my favorite quotes is this one by Charles R. Swindoll: “”Life is 10 percent what happens to you, and 90 percent how you react to it””. So, it’s how you face and respond to your challenges that really matters, and that’s where you truly learn and grow. 🙂
Jame Gonzalez | Fashion design student
The best advice I can give is to never sell yourself short, sometimes things get so overwhelming that it becomes easier to just give in or give up, but you always have it in you to complete whatever it is you desire or need. Never compare you’re success to others, we’re all different and some of us have to work harder to achieve our personal goals, always give it everything you do your absolutely 100 percent and that WILL be enough.
Rebecca O | CEO & Fashion Designer
Passion, Perseverance, and Consistency.
These key words have marked my life every step of the way. From an early age I discovered the amazing talent God had gifted and entrusted in my life to design and create women’s fashion. Despite this innate talent it’s been clear to me that life sidetracked my fashion journey for a long time. It was only the Passion that I carried within me that helped keep me focused on the ultimate goal of being a designer one day. Then, it was the relentless Perseverance to see my dream become a reality that helped me finally launch my own Rebecca O brand four short years ago. Today our Rebecca O brand thrives on Consistency creating one of kind pieces that always carry just a little piece of me in their creations. Elegance, sensuality and hand made exclusivity are some of the key attributes the make the Rebecca O brand so unique and sought after in the marketplace today.
Colleen Egan | Integrative Health & Lifestyle Coach
Imagine for a moment you are hiking in a beautiful forest. As you look up, you see that you are surrounded by hundreds (perhaps thousands) of 350-foot trees towering over you. As you go deeper into the forest, you begin to lose your way. Panic begins to set in, and it feels as though you will never find you’re your way out. After some time, you decide to take a deep breath and realize that if you could just find a way to get a bird’s eye view of the forest you can begin to find your way out. It’s from that higher perspective you are able to recognize where you are and which direction you need to take.
Often times we cannot see our challenges as they really are when we are knee deep in the experience. In other words, we become so immersed in the nitty-gritty details and the emotional experience that we lose sight of the bigger picture, thus leaving us stuck and paralyzed.
You must leave the trees so you can see the whole forest. Essentially, you must see your challenge from a larger perspective in order to transcend it. This could mean seeking help from a loved one or a mentor who can offer a fresh perspective on what you’re facing. Speaking with someone from a different vantage point can offer insights and solutions that are difficult to see when you’re in the thick of it.
Once you feel you have a good grasp on what the problem is and how it can be solved, shift your attention by asking yourself, “what is one thing I can do right now that will lead me in the direction I want to go in?”” Putting too much emphasis on the challenge itself can be overwhelming and incredibly daunting, which leads to more “stuckness”. Be present in the moment and take incremental action one day at a time.
Lastly, for anyone who is facing a challenge that they feel is insurmountable is to express sincere gratitude every single day. Why is this so important? Because your mind is hardwired is help you survive. By default, your brain will immediately fixate on any obstacles and challenges as well as the things that aren’t working in your life. Gratitude off-sets this mechanism by shifting your attention from what isn’t working to what is already working. What you focus your attention on will grow. The more time you spend dwelling on a problem, the bigger that problem becomes. The same is true when you spend your time expressing gratitude for the abundance that already exists in your life. You will inevitably create more abundance. That is why it’s especially critical during moments of life altering changes and challenges you focus your attention on your blessings.
I deeply believe obstacles, challenges and setbacks are put in our path in order for us to grow and transcend into our highest selves. I encourage you to welcome all experiences into your life, the good, bad and the ugly, with love and grace. And remember that maybe, just maybe, you were given this mountain so you could show yourself, as well as those around you, that it can be moved.
Cristina Bastidas | Certified Surgical Assistant | Health Coach
I strongly believe that our mind is POWERFUL. It is your mind that will help you conquer anything. Whenever you’re going to accept a challenge, you got to dig deep to find your “”why””. Explore the reason why you want to start or achieve certain goals because it is that “”why”” that will keep you pushing through tough days that you wanted to give up. Another key characteristic is your ATTITUDE. Your attitude will be your best friend when facing any difficulty. As a marathon runner, anytime that I’m racing and I feel my body giving up, I repeat in my head “”I’m not done yet””! With that internal message, pushing towards the finish line becomes more manageable. Rather than focusing on the aches and pains, I focus on why I want it and how bad I want it.
Shir Goshen | Event planner specialized in balloons decoration in Miami area
Good things happen to good people that work hard and believe in their self.
Yasmine Souffrant | Entrepreneur & Poet
Nothing is impossible with God, and He never gives you more than you can handle. Yes, there may be obstacles in your way and your goal may seem unattainable but everything you need in order to succeed is already in you. Believe in yourself and believe in your strength and tenacity. You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to.
Julia Cinquemani | Professional Ballerina with Miami City Ballet | Owner and Designer of Jule Dancewear
In the dance world there are so many ups and downs. From the highs of dancing my dream role, to the lows of getting injured, I have learned to accept the fluctuations as part of the business. If ballet has taught me anything, it has taught me to dig deep, be persistent and be true to myself. I apply that same mentality when I’m creating for my dancewear line, Jule Dancewear. No matter the set back, I know what my goals are and that nothing will knock me off my path. Do not underestimate your ability to overcome anything that seems impossible. It can seem daunting to take your first step towards an uphill battle. The most important part is that you take that first step and that you are persistent in the steps that follow. If you believe in a dream or goal 100%, let it be known.
Danny Bermudez | Model and fitness coach
So that you can overcome this situation you must first change your thinking, what we believe with our mind we can generate in our lives. Fear and distrust can not be an option.
Isabelle Scott | Psychologist and profesional salsa dancer
God is inside of you, and he is going to help you, so please, please look for him, just try!. You can begin praying, meditating, or expressing yourself through art.
FRANCY JULIANA FLOREZ | WELLNESS COACH & INTERNACIONAL- INDEPENDENT HERBALIFE DISTRIBUTOR
I’ve learned over and over is that hidden within every challenge is a blessing or opportunity. I am a big believer in the law of attraction and the universe. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and taken back by challenges that come our way, but try to always see the good in every circumstance. The universe is and will always work for you, never against you. Once you can learn to accept the challenges and see that the universe is working to put you on the path that is meant for you, you will see a number of opportunities start to come to you. Learn to attract the things you love, desire and cherish in life, and watch the universe align you with those vibrations! Life is too short to focus on your shortcomings. Learn that everything you experience is an upcoming for your greater good. “Don’t stop – believing.” whatever the challenge is, don’t stop. Don’t stop what you are doing or working toward. Don’t stop trying or working hard. Don’t stop BELIEVING: in yourself. Don’t stop BELIEVING in what you can be. Eventually, you will overcome the challenge and almost not even realize it because you were so focused on just reaching your goals. Life is all about the ups and downs, highs and lows. If we are not challenged, we do not grow. Welcome life’s challenges and then you can revel in your victories! Everyone goes through times where they feel like their life is insurmountable, where you feel like you aren’t ever going to get through this rough patch in life. My best advice when you are feeling this way, focus on short term daily goals, weekly goals and then annual goals. Big goals can seem overwhelming.There is no challenge in life that is insurmountable. Any roadblocks we face are there for a reason. They allow us to pause, grow and learn. If we focus on the positive and believe in ourselves, we can achieve anything we dream of doing! It is all in the power of our thoughts and actions. Each day is a brand new day to succeed. Never let anyone tell you you can’t do something or you aren’t good enough. We were all put on this earth to shine. Let your light shine through! When facing a challenge that feel insurmountable I always go back to basics. What is my “why”? I do a lot of introspective exploring about my motivation and from there am able to pull the necessary strength, resources and dedication to begin to tackle that challenge. Having a plan is key. Making a plan and breaking it down into steps that make it more easily completed also help with feeling overwhelmed or defeated. The main things for me though it my motivation and if I can remember my “why” then I will be much more determined to give it everything I have!
Raisa Laburtseva | Party decorator and giant flowers maker
Hard work always pays off. Stick to it and if your hands are down grab it with your teeth. Never give up your dream and don’t let anyone to persuade you to stop.
Milvia Pena | Herbalife distributor
Take positive control on what depends on you to solve and what does not depends on you keep faith that sooner or later it will pass.
MC Mercier | Fashion Entrepreneur | Jewelry Designer | Fashion and Lifestyle Blogger | Influencer
Breathe, take your time and weigh all your possible options. Often times when we are in a situation where we don’t have control over, we panic and we stress out thinking there is no way out of it. But we have to remember that every problem has a solution. Some may be easier than others but we have to believe in ourselves and surround ourselves with good support system who can help, motivate and help us surpass any challenge or hurdle in life.
Kaleigh Marielle | Student | Model and Creator of BLISS Yoga Class
I would remind them that nobody is immune to hardships and that all they can do is make the best of it.
Valeria Paez | College student
If you feel as if you’re facing a challenge that is insurmountable I believe you should shift your mindset to positive affirmations and believe in yourself and your abilities. I also think it is important to remind yourself how rewarding it will feel at the end when you’ve reached your insurmountable goal. And finally I think it can be helpful to remember that any time you’re at a point of great struggle it really just means you’re at a point in life where real personal growth is happening and you’re being prepared to overcome so much more than you ever thought you could accomplish.
Martha DC | Senior lady | Lifestyle blogger
Do not give up, nothing is impossible. Trust in yourself and with the help of God you will move to the highest mountain.