Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
We encourage you to check out the female leaders we’ve highlighted below, follow them on social media if you find their work or story interesting and most importantly do your part to #fightstereotypes
Mirala – Content Creator/Entrepreneur
It’s important to believe that life is happening for you and not to you. It’s incredible what we can accomplish with just our thoughts, and if you are able to embrace this challenge as a lesson, you can release yourself from feeling stuck. Believe that you are destined for great things, and find ways to lift yourself by setting personal goals, finding guidance or a mentor, meditating, doing physical activity and most importantly surrounding yourself with love.
Rosemarie Fern – Model / Actor
When i’m in the middle of a challenge that seems unconquerable, i break-it-down into very small tasks. I create a plan of action with a step-by-step order to completing each small task. The smaller the task the easier to conquer. Then I do one thing each day from the list. No pressure, just one thing a day is suffice, but if i feel like doing more, i do. By the end of the week i did seven things. By the end of the month i did thirty things. Before i know it, i’m closer to that goal than i thought and it doesn’t feel unconquerable anymore. Break-it down, do one thing, then look back and see how much you have accomplished. That’s my formula to anything intimidating. I set no limits for myself, just plans of action. My ultimate goal is to see how many unconquerable goals i conquer. Can you do one ☝️ thing a day towards your goal? Then you got this.
Jessica Galinas – Actress
When a task seems insurmountable, I remember a card a friend gave me about 20 years ago. The card had a cute picture of a boy surrounded by homework. Written was the word ‘Tenacity’ and a quote from Mathatma Ghandi, “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. I remember looking up the word ‘tenacity’ and I noted the difference between being tenacious and persistent. I always have had a ‘never give up’ attitude, but in time realized that it wasn’t always enough. Staying positive and working smarter (not necessarily harder) are keys to success. I understand there is a strong possibility that sometimes I am going to fail. Although never fun, I know failure is a part of the journey to success.
Natalia Patino – Actress, Singer, Writer, Artist, and Content Creator
Remember you are never alone. It is okay to ask for help, and it is okay to take time to breathe, reflect, and realign. The first person who deserves your unconditional love, patience, and understanding is you. When you have done the inner work and sought the help of those you trust and love, your mind can-and will -rewire the thoughts causing blockages. Look at challenges as stepping stones to the next and most beautiful version of yourself; vital to your evolution and growth. Your resilience is part of your brilliance. Trust that things will get better/easier, and have faith in the lesson the challenge is teaching you.
Erin Peacy – President of Mind Body Spirit Event Series
My best advice is to believe in yourself. Ignore the nagging and unhelpful voices you may hear in your head…that’s fear and fear won’t guide you to greatness. Just believe in yourself and DO IT!!!
Emem Nnamdie aka Fire Goddess Em – Lifestyle Influencer & Designer
No challenge is insurmountable. I’m a firm believer that you are never given more than you can handle. You may have been given more than you are use to dealing with. First, you need to gather your thoughts about the situation. I like to prepare my mind by going to a yoga class, meditation, or a beach day. If your mind is clear then you will be able to gather your thoughts efficiently. The next step is to create a plan. I write out my plans or I use speak to text. This allows me to be able to go over my plan and decide what may be the best steps to take in order to execute it. The last step is to execute it. Knowing that you have done your best to overcome this challenge is one of the most rewarding things of all. Not attempting to try is a disservice to yourself.
Jourdan Taylor “Champagne J” Trtanj | Bottle Server “My overall goal is to have my own Champagne Empire”
The only thing that can stand in your way from a solution is yourself. Remind yourself that failure is tolerable, but giving up is not. Have the mentality that impossible situations are only impossible until someone does it.
Samantha Lerouge | Creativepreneur , Consultant, Influencer
“Pray and give it to God”. When faced with an obstacle the first thing you should do is pray (or meditate). Rather than spending your time worrying, spend that time by giving your worries to God. Afterwards, create a to-do list in order to effectively accomplish your goals. Lastly, give yourself self-affirmations in order to build your self-confidence and create positive thoughts to set you on the path to success.
Christina Cuevas | Communications Specialist & Newbie Lifestyle Blogger
Facing challenges are inevitable. I have found that it is really important to approach and respond to these challenges in a positive way, as difficult as that may seem initially. For me, I like to write everything out. When I’m facing a challenge that feels insurmountable, I take a deep breath, pull out my notebook and favorite pink pen, and I write out what the challenge is. I will then create a list of actionable ways (mini goals) to break down the challenge. Setting small, attainable goals to help me reach a solution/ end goal helps me to see that the challenge isn’t impossible. Plus, I love being able to cross off each mini goal once completed because it makes me feel really good and just proud of myself! In many ways, tackling a challenge is a mind over matter thing. Positive thinking and believing in yourself goes a long way in helping you tackle whatever challenge you face. You can accomplish anything you set your mind to!
Jessic Villarreal | Mommy Blogger Inspiration
My very personal advice is that they do not give up that they are always positive and perseverant, perseverance is key and that however far and difficult it is to see that challenge, do not stop until you get it, work every day on it one of my mottos is that God’s time is perfect and he will arrive when he sees that you are really ready!
Carolina Florez | Tour Director
When faced with a challenge that seems impossible it’s important to highlight whatever it is you have control over and to not stress anything where there is nothing you can do. Just keep in mind that stress takes more energy than actually finding a solution.
Alana (aka AlanaInWanderland) | Founder of Course Charted. Attorney, Travel Writer, & Travelers’ Rights Advocate
What has helped me when facing a challenge that feels insurmountable is breaking the problem into smaller pieces. When analyzing travelers’ rights topics, the larger issue can seem complex. For example, “what are your rights when a vacation rental cancels on you at the last minute?” I would break that up into its components – the particular state’s laws on the topic, the rental agreement, any correspondence between the parties, etc. Now the task of answering that question becomes much simpler! This process can be used for almost any problem that has a solution or multiple solutions. And another great piece of advice I’ve gotten is to just get started. Often problems seem bigger in the mind until you start working on them!
Noelle Brillembourg | Content Creator and Proud Mom
Just keep trying… because once you start to do something you really love, it is not a job but a passion, so the thought of quitting should scare you more than the thought of going forward with your dream!
Zoe Kelly | Private Chef and Host
Best advice for facing an insurmountable challenge is to first breathe and make list of things in order of priority. Making lists are beneficial to me both in the kitchen and in life. Sometimes you may be surprised that what you thought was a huge undertaking may just be a few steps away. I always like to remember my favorite saying my mother used to tell me which was “don’t drown in a glass of water”.
Ali Embry | Yoga Instructor, Musician, & Actress
For those who are facing a challenge that they feel is too big to overcome, I would like to first let you know that I can relate. Heavily. I don’t have just one answer for you, but what I do know is that everything tough that you go through, makes you stronger in the long run. Everything teaches us a lesson, therefore everything happens for a reason. Some days may be extremely tough, and that’s okay. BUT, you must keep moving forward. Sometimes life pulls you back like an arrow, preparing you to be shot forward to better and greater things. And don’t play the victim in your situation. Allow time to grieve if you need it, but don’t pity yourself. You’re stronger than you think, and you can and WILL get through this. Remind yourself that as many times as you need to.
Camila Carrillo | Fashion Blogger
The advice I would give to someone facing a challenge they consider insurmountable is that everything in life has a solution. Sometimes we tend to drown ourselves in a glass of water so when that happens… Take a step back, breath and look at the big picture. And once you get a nice big shot, post it on your insta.
Paris Raine | Model & Entrepreneur
Challenges in life are inevitable. Throughout my life, I have had many bumps along the journey, from health issues, family breakdowns, relationship struggles and monetary losses. Many years ago I would consider these circumstances as being too overwhelming. As a result I would start to question if I was making the right choices and I even started to doubt myself and my ability. The one thing I’ve learned is to embrace challenges. Not only embrace the, but welcome them. See them as an opportunity for growth. How did I learn to change my perception? I made a conscious effort to turn any negative thought, feeling or believe I had about a situation into a positive one. Instead of feeling worried or stressed, I remind myself that I am strong, brave and I have the ability to do and overcome anything. Everything you need to get through such hindrances, you already have inside of you. Each individual person has a strength inside them, they don’t even know exists. My advice to you, when you find yourself such troubles, before you react, pause and breathe. Go to a quiet place where no one can disturb you. Truly take the time to acknowledge how you feel. For me, once I accept how I feel, I play out in my head every possible option I have, what I could do next and how I should go about it in a calm, intelligent way. Before I act, I too consider the consequences, both positive and negative of each action and not only how they could affect me but how they could affect others. I find by carefully taking the time to evaluate your options, you will always find the best choice of action to ultimately achieve the most positive outcome for all.
Ariella Sherman | Therapist, Nonprofit Manager, and Food Lover!
When a challenge arises you may be feeling overwhelmed, anxious, inadequate, or even powerless. The most terrifying part about facing a challenge is the anticipation of what is to come as it is natural to fear the unknown. My best advice is to face the challenge head on. What I have learned is that something magical can happen when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Taking a risk on something you are passionate about can lead to great reward, even if it is not what you expected. Ask yourself, what are the positives that can come from this, independent of the outcome. Remind yourself, that you can and will get through this. And remember, that the only constant in life is change!