Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
We encourage you to check out the female leaders we’ve highlighted below, follow them on social media if you find their work or story interesting and most importantly do your part to #fightstereotypes
Jourdan Taylor “Champagne J” Trtanj | Bottle Server “My overall goal is to have my own Champagne Empire”
The only thing that can stand in your way from a solution is yourself. Remind yourself that failure is tolerable, but giving up is not. Have the mentality that impossible situations are only impossible until someone does it.
Samantha Lerouge | Creativepreneur , Consultant, Influencer
Pray, and give it God”. When faced with an obstacle the first thing you should do is pray (or meditate). Rather than spending your time worrying, spend that time by giving your worries to God. Afterwards, create a to-do list in order to effectively accomplish your goals. Lastly, give yourself self-affirmations in order to build your self-confidence and create positive thoughts to set you on the path to success.
Christina Cuevas | Communications Specialist & Newbie Lifestyle Blogger
Facing challenges are inevitable. I have found that it is really important to approach and respond to these challenges in a positive way, as difficult as that may seem initially. For me, I like to write everything out. When I’m facing a challenge that feels insurmountable, I take a deep breath, pull out my notebook and favorite pink pen, and I write out what the challenge is. I will then create a list of actionable ways (mini goals) to break down the challenge. Setting small, attainable goals to help me reach a solution/ end goal helps me to see that the challenge isn’t impossible. Plus, I love being able to cross off each mini goal once completed because it makes me feel really good and just proud of myself! In many ways, tackling a challenge is a mind over matter thing. Positive thinking and believing in yourself goes a long way in helping you tackle whatever challenge you face. You can accomplish anything you set your mind to!
Jessic Villarreal | Mommy Blogger Inspiration
My very personal advice is that they do not give up that they are always positive and perseverant, perseverance is key and that however far and difficult it is to see that challenge, do not stop until you get it, work every day on it one of my mottos is that God’s time is perfect and he will arrive when he sees that you are really ready!
Carolina Florez | Tour Director
When faced with a challenge that seems impossible it’s important to highlight whatever it is you have control over and to not stress anything where there is nothing you can do. Just keep in mind that stress takes more energy than actually finding a solution.
Alana (aka AlanaInWanderland) | Founder of Course Charted. Attorney, Travel Writer, & Travelers’ Rights Advocate
What has helped me when facing a challenge that feels insurmountable is breaking the problem into smaller pieces. When analyzing travelers’ rights topics, the larger issue can seem complex. For example, “what are your rights when a vacation rental cancels on you at the last minute?” I would break that up into its components – the particular state’s laws on the topic, the rental agreement, any correspondence between the parties, etc. Now the task of answering that question becomes much simpler! This process can be used for almost any problem that has a solution or multiple solutions. And another great piece of advice I’ve gotten is to just get started. Often problems seem bigger in the mind until you start working on them!
Noelle Brillembourg | Content Creator and Proud Mom
Just keep trying… because once you start to do something you really love, it is not a job but a passion, so the thought of quitting should scare you more than the thought of going forward with your dream!
Zoe Kelly | Private Chef and Host
Best advice for facing an insurmountable challenge is to first breathe and make list of things in order of priority. Making lists are beneficial to me both in the kitchen and in life. Sometimes you may be surprised that what you thought was a huge undertaking may just be a few steps away. I always like to remember my favorite saying my mother used to tell me which was “don’t drown in a glass of water”.
Ali Embry | Yoga Instructor, Musician, & Actress
For those who are facing a challenge that they feel is too big to overcome, I would like to first let you know that I can relate. Heavily. I don’t have just one answer for you, but what I do know is that everything tough that you go through, makes you stronger in the long run. Everything teaches us a lesson, therefore everything happens for a reason. Some days may be extremely tough, and that’s okay. BUT, you must keep moving forward. Sometimes life pulls you back like an arrow, preparing you to be shot forward to better and greater things. And don’t play the victim in your situation. Allow time to grieve if you need it, but don’t pity yourself. You’re stronger than you think, and you can and WILL get through this. Remind yourself that as many times as you need to.
Camila Carrillo | Fashion Blogger
The advice I would give to someone facing a challenge they consider insurmountable is that everything in life has a solution. Sometimes we tend to drown ourselves in a glass of water so when that happens… Take a step back, breath and look at the big picture. And once you get a nice big shot, post it on your insta.
Paris Raine | Model & Entrepreneur
Challenges in life are inevitable. Throughout my life, I have had many bumps along the journey, from health issues, family breakdowns, relationship struggles and monetary losses. Many years ago I would consider these circumstances as being too overwhelming. As a result I would start to question if I was making the right choices and I even started to doubt myself and my ability. The one thing I’ve learned is to embrace challenges. Not only embrace the, but welcome them. See them as an opportunity for growth. How did I learn to change my perception? I made a conscious effort to turn any negative thought, feeling or believe I had about a situation into a positive one. Instead of feeling worried or stressed, I remind myself that I am strong, brave and I have the ability to do and overcome anything. Everything you need to get through such hindrances, you already have inside of you. Each individual person has a strength inside them, they don’t even know exists. My advice to you, when you find yourself such troubles, before you react, pause and breathe. Go to a quiet place where no one can disturb you. Truly take the time to acknowledge how you feel. For me, once I accept how I feel, I play out in my head every possible option I have, what I could do next and how I should go about it in a calm, intelligent way. Before I act, I too consider the consequences, both positive and negative of each action and not only how they could affect me but how they could affect others. I find by carefully taking the time to evaluate your options, you will always find the best choice of action to ultimately achieve the most positive outcome for all.
Ariella Sherman | Therapist, Nonprofit Manager, and Food Lover!
When a challenge arises you may be feeling overwhelmed, anxious, inadequate, or even powerless. The most terrifying part about facing a challenge is the anticipation of what is to come as it is natural to fear the unknown. My best advice is to face the challenge head on. What I have learned is that something magical can happen when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Taking a risk on something you are passionate about can lead to great reward, even if it is not what you expected. Ask yourself, what are the positives that can come from this, independent of the outcome. Remind yourself, that you can and will get through this. And remember, that the only constant in life is change!
Delania Alma | Pediatric RN and Artist
The best way to face a challenge you think you can’t overcome is to try and change your perception towards the challenge. It is very important not to stop because of an obstacle. Even when we want to give up, we must continue. In other words, we must remain optimistic and approach the problem from a different point of view. Try to think of it as temporary, something we take day by day and will overcome. It will later just seem as a bumpy step in the road that help mold our future.
Dana Brillante-Peller | Founder, Pellerini and DBP Marketing Solutions
I’d tell them to step back, take a deep breath, and dissect why you think the challenge is insurmountable. Is it just overwhelming in the moment? Break apart the challenge into bite size pieces to make it not so overwhelming. Also, look for support in your family, friends, and colleagues – or you can call me 😉
Taylor Stagner | Nanny/ Yacht stewardess
I would tell them My fav quote “ strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from things you once thought you couldn’t” – rikki Rogers
Blaire Rogers | Stay at Home Mom and Lifestyle Blogger
For me, my Christian faith is the most important thing in my life so I would encourage them to 1) pray and ask God to help you with this challenge that feels more than you can handle 2) seek wise counsel from someone they admire or respect 3) believe that every obstacle is an opportunity to learn and grow. Take it one day at a time and trust the process is part of accomplishing the goal, even if the end result is different than you expect.
Danielle Thompson | Beauty Blogger & Social Media Manager
Try to welcome all challenges–it tends to change my mindset from frustrated to motivated. Nothing makes me feel better than having the confidence to know that I WILL find a solution to any problem I may face.
María Paulina Camejo | Novelist
Something that has worked for me throughout difficult times is to accept that life comes with its ups and downs «This is just part of life. Failure happens» Having accepted that, we should focus entirely on what we can learn through this situation and how it can help us become a better person. If we manage to do that, in the end, it would have been beneficial.